Just changing one thing about your sexuality could be the catalyst that changes your whole life.
Sex and relationships occupy a big part of our lives and we all know when things go wrong, not as expected or there are unresolved concerns – it simply affects every part of your existence.
That’s why I invite you to work with me.
Before we go any futher I want you to know that my work is guided by integrity, respect, empathy and compassion while creating a safe space for you.
I work with people of all genders and relationship styles to transform sex, connection and intimacy.
I might use an approach that helps you connect with your body and get out of your head. I may or may not bring in body-based coaching. I design my sessions drawing from a range of ideas that integrate transformative physical, mental and emotional practices.
I look at the whole of you.
We talk about real stuff. The stuff that often gets skipped. Don’t worry though as we will have a laugh or two as well.
Everyone has a different erotic blueprint (different arousal patterns, sex styles, turn on’s and off’s, desires, sexual thoughts, fantasies). For example, if you want to become a better lover, it will be more comprehensive than just learning a new technique.
Sex is much more complex. If a couple has sex once a month (this is quite common by the way) it won’t be just about increasing the frequency.
Quantity doesn’t equal quality. Being present will be your biggest skill. Once you master that everything else will fall into place.
A straightforward approach. Direct, not beating around the bush. Remember, you want to improve your skills.
This means the more honest you are with yourself and with me, the better we work together and the quicker we reach your goal.
You may be given tailored home assignments/activities. This can range from self examination to touch, masturbation or partnered exercises and more. Sex is more than just some genital to genital action.
After a week we follow up. How did this go? What did you discover, learn, notice? Your commitment to this process is crucial. I work best with individuals and or couples that are committed to their sexual success.
The variety of sexual expression is huge, so don’t worry. YOU ARE NORMAL.
KNOW YOURSELF, KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. ONLY THEN YOU CAN EXPERIENCE IT.
The essence of sexual intimacy lies not in mastering specific sexual skills . . . but in the ability to allow oneself to deeply know and to be deeply known by one’s partner. So simple to articulate, so difficult to achieve, this ability of couples to really see each other, to see inside each other during sex, requires the courage, integrity, and maturity to face oneself and, even more frightening, convey that self—all that one is capable of feeling and expressing—to the partner. . . . Adult eroticism is more a function of emotional maturation than of physiological responsiveness.